Thursday, October 9, 2008

Hopeful Friday


A Healing Heart...

That is what I am hoping for! I am one of the victims Cielo spoke of...long suffering, 28 years, with a person who was not so nice, controlled me with our finances and through fear, and made me feel like I was stupid. And never good enough. I thank God every day that I was finally able to get the courage and strength to leave the relationship far, far behind. Even today, he tried to inflict emotional abuse on me through email. Thank God I am strong enough now to say NO to that abuse. And thank God I live 3000 miles away from the abuser.

If you even THINK you might be in an abusive situation, then chances are pretty good that you ARE! Get help...talk to someone you trust. And you will be in my prayers! God can give you the strength and courage.

To all my beloved blog sisters - I love you!

Hugs,
Victoria Lynn

PS: Please drop by and visit www.houseinroses.blogspot.com where Cielo is hosting Hopeful Friday! Thanks Cielo!

32 comments:

skoots1mom said...

thanks for dropping by...love your blog...

Virginia said...

My dear Victoria,
Praise God! For given you the strength to leave a bad relationship and start again.
May joy and peace surround you.
Blessings, Virginia

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.
-- Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Theresa said...

Victoria,
I am sorry you have been through such times. I know it has made your resolve strong, and God was always right there for you. Thanks for your comment on my blog. Donna Lynn is a treasure. I am happy you have each other as BFF. And I am glad we all have our Lord and the Holy Spirit in common. I would love to put your link on my blog. Let me know okay?
Hugs and blessins,
Theresa @ Cottage Violets

Barbara said...

Victoria, thank you for sharing such a personal struglle. Joyce Meyers has a book called beuty from ashes. I am sure it will be very helpful. God Bless.

LillyB said...

God Bless you! He will give you strength and Joy!! You new life will be a blessed one! You are a child of the King!! Made in His image. You can do all things thru Christ who stengthens you!!
Love ya!

Victoria Lynn said...

Barbara,
Thank your for recommending that book, I have read it...it is a wonderful book that I highly recommend! As a matter of fact I think I'll read it again!
Hugs,
Victoria Lynn

Debbie in CA : ) said...

Where I am weak, He is strong. Praise God for His strength in your life. I am new to visit you (I hopped over from Cielo's hopeful gateway), so I am off to explore and enjoy meeting you. : )

p.s.
Thanks for sharing from the heart. I know how difficult it can be, but courage conquers fear every time we smile and say "Because He lives, I can face tomorrow." Have a blessed and HOPEFUL Friday, sweet one.

CIELO said...

Thanks for sharing your sad story with all of us, sweetie... May our wonderful Lord continue to bless you as you inspire other woman to reach for a better life through your own life experience....

Hugs

cielo

Rachel said...

And you're doing amazingly well, too! Yay to God for all of His guidance in our move here!

Love,
Rachel

jeanne said...

Wow, Your strength should be awarded. It is not easy to move on in life and stay strong as well. God bless you and all the others who may read your post and gain strength from you, as well as Cielo's words.

Blessings and love...Jeanne

Donna Lynn said...

What can I say, you dear BFF, are not the same women that I met over 5 yrs. ago!!! You have learned to become strong and to hold your head high, learning that you are indeed a huge smarty pants...(smarter then certain baldies with supposed high IQ's! ;)

God has provided all that you need, according to His riches in Glory (if the streets are gold, you can imagine what else he can provide for us, do we ever really consider that??) Your living a blessed life because you are leaning on him now, praise God.

I love you sooooo much, and I agree with you: IF YOU THINK YOU MIGHT BE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, YOU ARE!!!! Heads up ladies, God does not want husbands being cruel, he says in his Word, Husbands treat your wife like Christ treats the Church, in other words Husbands you need to lay down your life for your wife. I believe, that marriages go down the toilet because the husbands are not the priests of their homes anymore, casting the spiritual and financial worries onto their wives, and in doing so, upset the entire way God intended marriage to be!!

We, christian women, are meant to be keepers of our homes, not out their fighting to keep our heads above water in a dog eat dog world of the working person!

I know you will find someone one day that will treasure you, allowing you to be the kind of woman God created you for: keeping a sparkling home, cooking and taking the burdens from his shoulders when he walks in the door and wraps his arms around you! You are a great woman, and someday a man will see all that you have to offer. (Too bad fat head did not!!!!)

As Christians, we are called to a higher call, Gods call, not the worlds standards, I praise God that you never caved!

I love you with all my heart!
XO,
Donna Lynn

Charli and me said...

Very good advice. I am glad you removed yourself from that situation. I hope you will always continue to take care of your self. Blessings, Carol

Simply Dandy said...

Hi Victoria Lynn,
I am so glad you were able to get a fresh start. You deserve it. Can't wait to see your kitchen.

Hugs,
LeAnn:)

KATHERINELLEN said...

Victoria,
I am so sorry that you had to go through it..I am so glad you had the streangth and courage to get out. Without God we can't do it...I always quote my scripture..."I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthen me" Phil 4:13 There is HOPE ...through Jesus...You are brave and the Hopeful Friday is a great post...you share your life story and willing to help others to encourage them to take the step forward....to get help. Thanks you for sharing...You have a wonderful weekends..Katherinellen

Ginger said...

Victoria:
I left an abusive situation 26 years ago and I've almost forgotten about it. I can't believe I am saying that, but it's true. Life gets better!!!! The best thing I got out of the horrible relationship was 4 beautiful children.
Ginger

Glenda said...

It's sad to hear people go through these things. You just never know who you'll end up with and what they are capable of. Glad you were able to get away.

Ciao

BittersweetPunkin said...

God Bless you Darlin...
Hugs,
Robin

ROSE VINE COTTAGE said...

I am so glad to see that you found the strength to get out of your abusive situation! I know this probably will sound strange but I can almost feel your strength and happiness growing through your blog! By the way I love all your Fall decorations on your last post, don't ya love Seasons of Cannon Falls decor. Take care and I'll talk to you soon.
Hugs~Kelly

GARAGE SALE GAL said...

Hi Vicoria lynn,
Good for you, hip-hip, hurray..
A few years ago I was a volunteer at a "safe home" for abused women and I would play with their children while they would attend the support group there. It was a real eye opener for me. A couple of the gals went back to their abuser:( You must be very proud of yourself and KNOW, without a doubt that you did the Right thing. Blessing to you :)
Warmly,
Deb

Tricia said...

It is so brave of you to share that testimony. I too got out of a bad situation after 29 years of marriage. I am so peaceful and give God the glory for the strength he provided me. Have a great week.

suzeeez said...

Hi , I just started looking at your blog and wanted to tell you that I love your Fall banner .
:o) Sue

THE HOME THAT LOVE BUILT said...

Good morning Victoria. It takes time for a broken heart to heal but it surely will.
You have shown such strength and courage through your actions.
May the very best come to you.

Blessings,
Brook

Diana Lyn said...

Morning Sweetie, just stopping by for a visit! Miss your smiling face, but so glad you are Happy! Big hugs! Diana Lyn

Nermal and Kitty said...

Hi Victoria--It's good to read your blog again-thanks for your prayers during my illness. God has blessed you with a sweet spirit and strong character. Romans 5:3-4 I think you are very brave to move so far away from all your friends in order to start over! You're a great lady.
Luv, Nerm

TattingChic said...

Dear Victoria,
Thank Heavens you were able to get out. What a lovely post! So glad to see someone using an ugly situation from the past to give strenght and courage to someone else who might be needing it. Good for you!
Big (((HUGS)))!!! :)
~TattingChic

Joanne Kennedy said...

I am so happy you are now in a safe and lovely new place that you call home.

No one has the right to try to control us or to make us think we are not worthy of anything.

Be proud of who you are and the strength you found to leave.

Big hugs,
Joanne

Art by Ronda Juniper Ray said...

Thank you for sharing your story with us. As Virginia said, may joy and peace surround you -- you've earned it and you deserve it.

Warmly, Ronda

CIELO said...

Good morning Victoria.... came by to say hi and to wish you a happy sunshiny day....

Hugs

cielo

Shabbyfufu said...

Much love to you Victoria Lynn....I am so happy for the life that you are building for yourself now:-)

Joyce said...

You are a wonderful, strong woman. You should be very proud of yourself. Life throws stuff at us and it's all about what you do with it. You rose above and took back your life. My mother wrote the following quote in my 8th grade yearbook, "This above all else, to thine own self be true". I didn't really grasp it at 14, but I've tried to live it every day
once I understood it.

Joyce said...

You are a wonderful, strong woman. You should be very proud of yourself. Life throws stuff at us and it's all about what you do with it. You rose above and took back your life. My mother wrote the following quote in my 8th grade yearbook, "This above all else, to thine own self be true". I didn't really grasp it at 14, but I've tried to live it every day
once I understood it.

Life on Bonnie Lane said...

I didn't realize you weren't on private any more! Welcome back.

I hear what you are saying. I was with an emotionally abusive man for 12 years. I have to say that when I filed for divorce, I never once looked back. I never once cried over the end of the marriage and the day the judge pronounced our marriage over was one of the happiest days of my life. After almost 9 years, I have come to the point where there is forgiveness and we are actually sort of friends, but I will never forget the hell he made me live under.

Good for you for moving on! Life will just get better and better.

Kady